Several weeks ago, my wife and I attended a quilt auction that is held annually as a fundraiser for an organization affiliated with our church.
We went to the auction to specifically be the high bid on a particular quilt. There were 163 quilts in the auction, and the one we wanted was in the first third.
We were successful in the bidding and once we had the quilt in our possession, we settled back to watch the rest of the quilts sell.
Our nephew is getting married in a few weeks, and my wife thought a quilt from the auction could make a good wedding gift.
A quilt caught her eye, and she said we should bid on it and we did buy it.
We were able to buy another quilt for a new granddaughter who was expected to arrive any day and sure enough, 24 hours after our purchase, Evelyn arrived, and she possessed her own quilt to take home when she left the hospital.
So far everything was going nicely until my wife took a closer look at the quilt destined to be a wedding gift.
My wife enjoys cooking, knitting, and quilting, among other things. When she is making any of these items she does not just make them, but has a craftsman’s attitude.
It is not just making it, but making it right.
Evaluating the quilt, she saw quality of workmanship and was pleased with the arrangement of the squares.
However, she was displeased with the fabric used in quilt. The fabrics were of wide ranging patterns with cheap material and some of them could even been double-knit.
She was so dissatisfied she said it was not fit for a wedding present.
Now it was my turn.
I said, “It’s a quilt. It is not meant to be a work of art.”
“It is what it is.”
Life is like that. Almost everything in life is a compromise. We look at our choices and decide that while maybe it is not perfect, it is still good enough.
There are times we substitute expediency for quality because the situation requires that. We decide against something, thinking there will be a better time later only to learn too late, that was the better moment.
This is a second marriage for my nephew and his fiance. My wife and I have a vast personal experience with a second marriage, over 20 years’ worth.
Like the quilt, we came with our own backgrounds, looked at each other and decided that while we weren’t perfect, we were both pretty darned good and we went for it.
It was a good decision.
Besides, a quilt is intended to provide comfort and keep a person warm on a cold night, which is another reason for marriage.
We have had fun collecting opinions from our friends and family about if this quilt is suitable for a wedding present.
The consensus seems to be to give them the quilt along with an explanation in writing of how this quilt came to be a wedding present.
That is good advice.
We have already received enjoyment from this quilt, a quilt that was bought to give away.
I would hope when my nephew and his wife celebrate their anniversary in 25 years, they will look at an old quilt that is torn, ragged, and stained from years of use with many memories of grabbing it when it was needed for many reasons.
It’s a quilt.
Rye is a Farm News staff writer and farmer from Hanlontown. Reach him by e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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