A mother’s letter
In a few days you will become a mother for the first time. Maybe you will become a mother over and over again in your lifetime, but rest assured that while all of your pregnancies and babies/children will be special, there’s just something about that first one.
You were that first one for me. Until you were born I couldn’t possibly understand how someone so small could have such a huge impact on my life. Carrying you for nine months was one of the most profound experiences of my life. It was all so new to me, and it held lots of mystery and a certain kind of joy that nothing else in my life could come close to matching.
Finally the time came for you to be born. It was a scary time, but there you were – pink and perfect. Casting our eyes upon you in the flesh for the very first time was unbelievable. I knew you before you were born, and up until then, I had carried you every second of your life.
And now you come to these last few days before having a child of your own – son. It will be the toughest job you’ll ever love. You will have the blessing and arduous job of raising someone’s husband- and you’ll want to do a good job of that.
It will be hard sometimes. You will be overwhelmed now and then and you will have to make tough decisions. You will discipline with a heavy heart, and at times you may even feel like your children hate you – but your love for them will never waver. And on those days when you don’t feel very glamorous or popular with your children, just remember that Adam was created in the wild, and Eve was created in a garden. You will always be beautiful.
Parenthood – like marriage – is a marathon. You’ll be a mother for the rest of your life, so it’s important to pace yourself. Remember, “Inch by inch, life is a cinch. Yard by yard, life is hard.” Keep that saying close by; you will need it.
There is hardly a word in the English language that sounds as beautiful to a woman as the word, “Mom.” I think God must have designed that word, because there is no other explainable reason that when a child somewhere out in public says or shouts, “Mom!” – every woman turns her head. That’s how special it is to be a mother.
God has blessed you with this little boy. Take the time to talk to him, play with, teach, love, nurture and discipline him, give him the gift of saying “no” when you have to, but say “yes” whenever you can. And when he gets to be a toddler and wants to kiss you impetuously, let him do it. That time passes all too quickly, and someday you will long for those days back.
Give him purposeful work as he grows – something he can be proud of as he labors. Time is shorter than you realize – and before you know it, he’ll be off to his first day of kindergarten, and you will be in a puddle of tears on the floor, wondering where your baby went. And when he goes off to college – well, you know the story; you were there yourself not that long ago. You will have shared so much together until then, and the tears will flow.
He will be a product of his environment – so make it a good one. The best thing you can give to your children is a healthy marriage, so stay close to each other, talk to each other, remain united in your efforts to raise your children together, and go to church as a family.
And when you face rough times in your relationship, take time to regroup; your decisions affect the happiness and well-being of your whole family – so make good communication part of every day. And when you need to get away by yourselves for a day or two in order to do that, you only have to call 1-800-GRANDPA-AND-GRANDMA. We work cheap when it comes to grandies.
Once this baby arrives, you will be different. But you will also be the person God chose to care for this child of His. We will be learning, too, so please be patient with us as we learn to grandparent in a world that is so different from the world in which we raised you.
Dad and I wish you all the best as you start your new role as parents-the toughest, most rewarding job a person can ever love, this side of heaven.
With Love, Mom
Karen Schwaller is a Farm News correspondent from Milford. Reach her by e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org and www.karenschwaller.com.
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